The Challenges of Arranged Marriages for Believers in India
Many people praying for India do not understand how difficult it is for young single Christians to find suitable partners in India. God declares that it is not good for a person to be alone. However, we need to be with the right person.
It is difficult to find a suitable partner if you’re a Christian in India because the hierarchical influence in decision-making has been seen to affect how an individual can choose their partner. Eugene interviews an Indian brother on this podcast to shine a light upon the difficulties and the loss that becoming a believer in India creates.
Freedom not to have an arranged marriage is costly for the family and the individual, because they will not receive a dowry. The Dowry is given to the groom’s family along with the bride and includes cash, jewelry, electrical appliances, furniture, bedding, crockery, utensils, vehicles and other household items.
Listen below to the discussion of why it is so difficult in India for Christians to find a spouse when 80% of all marriages in India are arranged.
Arranged marriages were great. Usually the Father’s took care of their daughters marriage by selecting who her husband would be because of who the family is and he would give a dowment like a deposit and a promise of marriage. Dad’s just a few years ago around the 1970’s and earlier also put his foot down and decided if his daughters prospective husband was suitable for his daughter. He based it on the boy and his family and where he came from and if her Father didn’t like the boy he said No you aren’t Marrying him I don’t like him or his family or where he comes from and go find another boy to Marry. Girls listened to their Dad’s. Some cried. But Dad had to approve of her husband to be. Boys use to ask permission of her father to Marry his daughter. Even dates Dad had to approve on her dating a boy and Dads waited up for his daughter to come home and he set the time when the boy brought his daughter home. Some Dad’s even went on the first date and sat in.the back seat of the car or in the seat behind in a Movie Theater. Mom’s also has to approve of what girl her son married. When this was done all these ways they married the right person and their Marriage lasted for years. Now either the boy or girl marry the wrong person and if this happens their marriage is a disaster and the wrong person their Son or Daughter Marries will wreck the entire family for years to come. Dad’s and Mom’s knew best.